Motherhood

I Love to Watch You Play

I don’t want to be that parent that criticizes and yells at my kids through sports games. The ones that are always riding their kids to try harder, do better, be faster. That parent that tells their kids what they did wrong or how they can improve. The parent that says “You did great, BUT…” You know those parents they think they are being “constructive” through criticism.…

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Lessons from New Year’s Eve

At the time I didn’t know Crew and I were talking about self care, but I think that is a great label. I spend time teaching my children about physical self care like brushing teeth and washing hands and eating healthy, but I need to talk to my children more about emotional “self care”. A stupid, crazy game on New Year’s Eve ended up being our perfect opportunity.…

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Serve Your Sibling

I was immediately defensive. So, what? It is my fault my kids fight? Parents that have kids that don’t get along have taught them to hate each other — to be rude? Are you kidding me? I’ve done many a Family Night lesson on being kind to your siblings. We’ve read stories and scriptures and watched videos. I’ve yelled; I’ve pleaded; I’ve grounded. I have tried to teach my children to love each other and they just don’t!!!!…

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My Least Favorite Excuse

My least favorite parenting excuse is “I never did …… when I was a kid and I turned out okay” or “When I was a kid, I did …… and I am just fine.”   (Here’s a retro family pick just for fun.  I am the blond on the far right with a polka dot dress.) Here are some specific examples of this kind of logic: My mom and dad never talked to me about sex and I turned out just fine. People used to eat bacon and eggs every morning and they survived. My mom and dad didn’t monitor what I watched growing up and I turned out okay. I could do whatever I wanted when I was a kid and I am a responsible adult. I have heard all of these reasonings before…

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Dear Miss Allen

It is not uncommon for Crew to go to school without his lunch, his backpack, his homework, or his coat. I have even kicked him out of the car with no shoes on. And this matted cowlick has left the house more than once. I wanted his teacher to know where I was coming from as a parent so I wrote her a letter.…

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Deliberate Motherhood Book Review

I was supposed to have my review up earlier this week. But in my attempts to read and review Deliberate Motherhood, guess what got in the way….Motherhood. Yes, that’s right. Motherhood wasn’t allowing me to read about motherhood. The irony wasn’t lost on me.…

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I Like You Too

Crew had a rough morning the other day.  He stole a bite of Locke’s eggs at breakfast, so Locke clawed him — which led to the girls laughing. Crew got embarrassed and lashed out at the girls and clawed them.  They clawed him back and then a chase around the kitchen bar ensued. Meanwhile, I yelled, “Stop it!” from the sink over and over and louder and louder until someone finally listened. The girls apologized, sat back down, and didn’t say another word. Crew kept up the antics with blaming and yelling. Finally, I grounded him for the day. (This is NOT a story to illustrate wonderful discipline or our morning routine.  I am using this story to make another point.…

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Padded Happiness

Sometimes I write to encourage or inspire. Sometimes I write to question or vent.  Other times I write to record or remember.  This is one of those remember times. I want to remind myself I am happier when my day is padded — when my schedule has breath and space — when there is plenty of time for transitions — when there is time to pause and notice. Scenario#1: I dropped Croft off at cheerleading on Monday, and it was just Locke and me.  (Elle was at dance and Crew was at a friend’s house.) I had ample time before I needed to pick Elle up from dance. So as we left the rec center, Locke … walked on the ledge of a brick wall as I held his hand smelled the flowers …

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Spiritual Sandwich

I have been a bit weary lately with the burdens and pressure I feel as a mother to protect, monitor, and educate my children about the dangers that are out there — from pornography to sexual abuse to profanity. And I can’t forget about technology. Instagram, SnapChat, You Tube, Vine, etc. all have their own set of issues; we are talking about sexting, cyber bullying, and stalking just to name a few.…

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Locke Grew Up

Locke grew up overnight. No, he really did. He went from a little guy in diapers needing mom for everything to an independent, talking, briefs sporting little guy.…

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