Motherhood

The Stuff Homeschool Dreams Are Made Of

BUT yesterday was different. And I write about it because yesterday reminded me what is possible. It reminded me we are making progress. It reminded me to not give up. It reminded me not to worry- there was nothing that happened at school that was better than what we did together. It reminded me of my true priorities. It reminded me to stay focused. Yesterday reminded me that homeschooling is exactly what I want to be doing.…

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Practice in Personal Revelation

I’ve long thought that kids need to learn how to get personal revelation earlier than we let them. We control too much and take over too much, and when it becomes necessary for personal revelation they are not prepared. They don’t know what to do, how to ask, what answers feel like, etc. Kids need practice in personal revelation before the stakes are high.…

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Speak For Themselves

The first kid looked the waitress in the eye and told her what she wanted for dinner. The next child ordered and made a modification from the menu — something along the lines of ‘hold anything healthy and add fries’. The next child asked a question to clarify the menu and then she ordered. Lastly, we got to my 5 year old. He looked at the waitress and said, “I’ll have a quesadilla, please.”…

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Ordinary Lives

It was the first day of school for everyone else, but not for my family. I was homeschooling all of my kids this year, and my kids, mom and I were on a road trip. We were headed to my hometown to pick choke cherries and make choke cherry jam. As we traveled in the car through the plains of Wyoming, I was deep in thought about the school year that lie ahead. I kept thinking about what I wanted to give my children this year at home. I was torn between wanting to give them an extraordinary life and yet a very ordinary life? I asked myself, “Do I want them to travel the world, study all kinds of topics, and have experiences I never had—- or do I want them to get my kind of childhood …

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What Went Well

I was listening to a radio program this weekend on the topic of happiness. The host mentioned that research indicates that people are happier when they focus on their strengths, not their weaknesses. So rather than always trying to improve themselves or work on their inadequacies, happy people spend time and energy and focus on what IS working in their lives.…

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Raising Spouses

Elle asked me the other day if she could have a fireplace in her new bedroom if we build a house. I answered with a NO. I continued, “Even if I could afford it, I wouldn’t do it.” I responded, “I have an obligation to your future husband.”…

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Pressure Valves

I have been reading an awesome book called “Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier and More Secure Kids.” The author is telling me everything I already believe: less toys, less books, less activities, less choices, less clutter, less ingredients, less distractions, less noise, etc. make for more secure, more connected, and more peaceful children.…

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In the Shadows of Competence

I realized something about my parenting lately. Elle, my oldest, is so dang capable and competent that my other children might not be. It’s not her fault. It’s not their fault. It’s mine. The other kids just bask in Elle’s competency or shrink in her shadows, depending on how you look at it.…

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Spring Break. A Break From What?

Last week was Spring Break around these parts. Now I personally believe that just because there is a break from school does not mean there is a break from life. If mom still has to cook and dad still has to work, kids still have responsibilities as well.…

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Tilting

I wrote a blog post a few years back that started out something like this: “Everyone wants balance in their life and this is how I do my best to maintain balance in my life:” I went on to explain my time blocking schedule. That post never got published because I could never, despite my valiant efforts, get my time blocks just right. A few years later, I realize that I’m done with trying to achieve balance. I’m into tilting instead.…

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