“Who Am I?”

At least once a week, I think, “Who am I to think that I could do a blog? and that anyone would want to read it?”  (That is probably the day I skip a post.) And at least once a month I verbalize my insecurity to my husband.  I close my computer and consider bagging the whole project.

Then my husband knows just what to say.  He doesn’t praise me or give me a bunch of gooshy compliments- that’s not my style or what I need.  He doesn’t put down other blogs or other women to try to make me feel better about myself.  That’s too weak. He just simply says: “Who are you NOT to be?”

He knows my favorite quote and he knows how to knock me out of my shrinking mode:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” (Marianne Williamson)

This quote is great on so many levels (and I guarantee you will see it again in a future post).

So for now I will keep blogging (until I meltdown again next month)…  And if you ever think “Who am I to start a business, sit on a PTA committee, speak in front of hundreds of people, run a relay, teach a church lesson?” or even just “Who am I to be a mom?” just remember “Who are you NOT to be?”

12 Comments
  1. Tiff I love this quote. I am going to forward to everyone I know. This is a powerful statement that works in every area of your life. Thanks for the reminder. I just had a girl today that I train to run- break through a huge milestone. She ran further that she ever imagined. I didn’t run for her- SHE did the work. I knew she had it in her, she just needed to know that. We are all powerful beyond belief. We can do hard things! I love you for being a blogger. Thanks for all your inspiring words.

  2. Who are you not to be is the best response to use, and I love this quote. Admittedly, however, I’m sometimes tempted to ask: “is it that time of the month?” 🙂

  3. Tiff,
    You inspire me! I have been following your blog for sometime, thanks to your Sis, Angela. I appreciate your post today because your story is one that we all too can relate. Feelings of inadequacy or that we just simply are not good enough is what we battle every day. I truly believe that this life is a big part of “Overcoming Self”. When we do that, we are then put in positions that we can inspire and help others, because we have helped ourselves. Life is about enjoying the journey and overcoming the things that hold us back, but more importantly, pushing through to do great things. For each of us it may be different, but none the less, we must continue to learn, overcome and continue to do great things.
    Thanks you for being real and sharing your thoughts and struggles and the tender support of your husband. It is these messages that we need to hear, because it shares the human side of all of us. Keep Blogging, I’m listening!
    Debbie

  4. Now seems like a good time to pipe up and tell you that I read your blog and I love it! You do a fabulous job and you are able to give great ideas and real life experiences without coming across as self-righteous. Keep it up!

  5. This is your best post yet, intresting how Marianne Williamson knew just what to say. just like you do. i wonder if you and her both know when your writing what powerful things you have to say. you make people think and you help people everyday because you simply say the truth of what you are going through. thats 2 God like qualities right there.
    you have many more as do as all.