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Oh, Yes, He Did

How many of you have ever threatened to take away gifts at Christmas? Or threatened to text Santa about the kids being naughty? Or told your elf in front of your child that he/she did something wrong? Or said something like, “If you don’t stop (fill in the blank), Santa’s not going to give you any presents!” Most every parent has resorted to a version of these empty warnings at one time or another. I have, and I’m not proud of it. The second the words come out of my mouth, I am disappointed in myself for losing control, resorting to threats, and for basically saying something that I would never do. It feels dishonest and childish, but mostly it feels desperate. …

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Power of a Preposition

I received two pieces of bad news recently. And I’m using the power of a preposition to get me through. I remember learning about prepositions in the 8th grade. Mrs. Scarlett, my English teacher, described them as words that show how a bird might interact with a birdhouse. For example, a bird can fly to a birdhouse, under a birdhouse, through a birdhouse, near a birdhouse, around a birdhouse, etc. To, under, through, near and around are all prepositions. I still use the birdhouse analogy to teach my kids about prepositions. It’s not perfect, but it will get us the right answer at least 80% of the time. I never really thought these little words would mean much to me, but this last…

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Let Go of the Bananas

Have you ever heard the story of the monkey that just won’t let go of the bananas? At the gist of this story is attachment. What are we not willing to let go of? What are we holding on to tightly that isn’t serving us? What ideas, programs, practices, hopes, dreams and expectations are jeopardizing our safety and our sanity?…

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Let Them Grow Up

There is definitely a part of me that gets sad when I see my kids baby faces in old pictures. I miss the less busy days at home or their cute little voices or their solvable problems. But I really wouldn’t want things to stay that way. Growth is why we came to earth. Growth is a sign of life.…

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Trust Your Gut

I hate that I am over forty years old and I still need validation. I guess I thought by now I would hold my head high and strut around with confidence in myself, with disregard to any one else’s opinion. I’m almost there, but I allow doubt to creep into my mind ever so slightly, mainly in the area of homeschooling.…

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Family Calendar 2.0

Different calendaring methods worked great when my kids were younger, but sadly, those days are gone, and now it’s time for Family Calendar 2.0.…

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Taking My Cue From Nature

What if you took your exercise cues from nature and gave your body his or her own winter?…

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Own It

My children struggle a bit to own their mistakes. It seems like when they are busted they divert and try to blame a sibling, the circumstance, or even me or Chad sometimes. Most of the time a simple “I’m sorry” would suffice and we could all move on, but because they won’t own their mistake, the problem is unnecessarily extended. Chad and I handle our children’s attempts at misdirection in three ways.…

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Know Better, Do Better

This is a difficult post to write because it exposes some of my mistakes and weaknesses as a mother. It’s painful to admit that I screwed up or did things wrong. But I’m also proud of this post because it demonstrates courage. I’ve recognized a deficiency in my parenting and I’m making efforts to correct it. And that’s all I can expect of myself. When I know better, I do better. The bottom line is I’ve haven’t given Croft the same kind of time as I’ve given my other children. She came as a bit of a surprise, just 19 months after Crew. Frankly, I don’t remember much about her pregnancy, her birth or her infancy. My husband lived out of tow…

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The Other Three R’s

When I started homeschooling I wanted to make sure that I kept things simple and basic so that I would not get overwhelmed. In academics I knew I wanted to cover the three R’s (Reading, wRiting, and aRithmetic), but there were three other R’s that were important to me as well.…

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